It’s a weekly, almost daily occurrence that I am approached to hook someone or their friend up with one of our models from Femme Fatale. It may sound funny but being surrounded by beautiful models is a blessing and a curse. First of all I am not currently a match maker (although I have considered the business opportunity!), and second most of the men that approach me are doing it all wrong! As such comes my new weekly blog feature, Moguls Meeting Models.
First of all meeting a model or any beautiful woman is generally not going to be successful if is initiate by their boss or friend. They will be talking with you because they feel they have to. Secondly you will seem like a pansy. Women hate pansies. If you’re looking to meet a beautiful, intelligent and successful woman lets lay the ground rules with a few things you need to know first:
1. Be confident: If you think you are great, there is a better chance she will too. A confident man doesn’t seek approval from women, and this makes us want you more!
2. Don’t ask: When you ask something such as, “can I buy you a drink?” you’re putting the ball in her court and giving her all the power. Where as, “I’m going to buy you a drink, come to the bar” is much more assertive and you will get that drink with her. Same goes for, “could I take you out for dinner some time?” vs. “I’m going to take you out for dinner, lets do it Thursday.”
3. Don’t compliment: First of all you aren’t telling her anything she doesn’t know. For the most part beautiful women know they’re beautiful. It’s similar to walking up to a millionaire and saying, “wow! You have a lot of money!” He knows this and will probably just think you’re lame. Most likely hundreds of men have already told her this and you’re now just adding yourself to this pile of men she has already politely brushed off. I’m not saying women don’t like compliments, because they do, but from another man telling us the same thing means little to nothing. Not only this but telling a woman how gorgeous she is damages your alpha status and gives her the upper hand and places her on a pedestal, reducing your chances.
4. Attraction works different for women then it does for men: Men are attracted to what they see, women are attracted to what they don’t see. Sure looks, wealth, fame, power, height all play a role. But what women are really looking for is personality traits, whether they know it or not. They rationalize why they like someone.
Keep these in mind next time you’re out or better yet at a Femme Fatale event, you’ll quickly see what I mean! Until the second blog, happy hunting!
CEO Femme Fatale Media & Promotions
Event Staffing & Model Management